The Fairer Sex

One thing, among many if I'm honest, that irritates me is when I hear women complain about men. And marriage. Yes, it may occasionally be funny as it is obvious that there are many differences between men and women, but overwhelmingly, the opinion seems to be men just cannot do, and be, right. When did women collectively and individually decide that they are superior?

In my corner of the world. In my little cul-de-sac in upstate New York. I find this message so damaging. Long term. What are we teaching little girls? The women who follow behind us... What will they lose?

I am a strong woman. Very independent. Capable of many things. You should see me move a trashcan up a hill while on crutches. Seriously. You should have seen that. It was one for the books. I am a strong, independent woman, who just so happens to find strength in the protection of a man. Friends, note here that that trust does not come easily or lightly, strong and independent women take their time in forking over the pieces and bits and control of their heart to another.

I know my own identity as an individual, and yet, that identity only increases by the grounding I receive in the stability of the love of my husband. I've been married for twelve years. Just twelve. And so far, I can honestly say there has not been one day that I considered it a drudgery or "so much work and effort" in the context that it is an unhappy experience. I do not think my husband is an idiot who does stupid man things. In fact, if I allow him the opportunity to speak, he amazes me with his wisdom. I'm learning to say less so he can say more. When he says more my heart finds safety. Strong people need safety. A place where one can weep and still be counted a warrior.

I want to raise my boys to appreciate a strong woman. To let her have strength. But be a man that God intends. The role of strength, honor, and protection for women. Say all you want about women's rights, blah, blah, blah, but it is not in the power of a woman but in the power of a man. A man usually sets the course of a woman's life, for good or bad, starting with Dad.

Girls, it's not very popular right now to think you are less than a man. And I'm not suggesting that you are "less than" so much as "worthy" of being cherished and honored by a man. Allow yourself to have that. Take a break from girl power and strength and.... Breathe. A man naturally wants to honor you. The fairer sex. Let that happen. Mothers raise your sons to fulfill and be proud of that role. Mothers raise your daughters with these expectations.

As a strong woman, I can just as easily pay for the bill without blinking an eye. But there definitely is a special feeling when the bill is paid on your behalf. Honored. "Let ME take care of YOU." Cherished. You aren't going to lose, dear nieces, dear girlfriends everywhere, you are going to flourish.