It's Where Life Is

For my young readers.

For those who need to hear it.

Know your worth.

Everything I would impress upon you, dear ones, is just this. Please know your worth.

I struggled my life long with self loathing. With self worth. A constant, heartsick battle.

Shame covered me. A deep sadness gripped every piece of my heart. I felt unworthy of being loved. I watched as the world passed me by with its style, music, entertainment; I didn't know how to find my place in it.

I was certain, absolutely certain that no one would enjoy my companionship. No one would understand the deep recesses of my heart. No one.

I watched life happen from the sidelines. My heart ached for what it appeared everyone else had. Life. Love. Laughter.

Do you know I wore only skirts until 1997?

1997. Friends.

I know very little about TV and movies prior to the same year. In fact, are you ready? I've never seen ET in its entirety. Mic drop.

I never had a boyfriend in highschool. Friends. All.The.Way.Through.Highschool.

Oh, dear young readers, nieces and nephews, this sounds like death to every teenaged heart.

So very awkward.

But what my aged wisdom tells me now is that I could have had no better blessing than this.

I can say without a doubt that my life would have had a very different outcome had I been down some of the roads my peers were taking. My heart was simply not prepared. So, thank you for not giving me the time of day, boys everywhere.

Relationships are difficult, no matter your age, be it friendships, family, or spousal. In order to be successful in your relationships, you have to understand who you are. No one under 30 fully understands themselves. No one. So, if you find yourself in an awkward between kinda stage, even at 28, don't take it personally or too seriously.

You are priceless, dear ones; before you give your heart away, consider that. Your value extends far beyond your physical beauty. Take less selfies of your breasts or muscles. Take more selfies with your smile.

Your heart should never be given lightly. Guard it well. The wrong hands will damage your heart, potentially beyond repair. Life is in the heart. In the right hands, it will flourish.


Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23